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May Sugar and Spice Monthly Talk – Pleasure

14/05/2021 @ 7:00 pm - 9:30 pm


The Sugar and Spice movement allows a discourse to transform conventional thinking that people raised in traditional societies are unable to express themselves with confidence and purpose when it comes to sex – preferences, attitudes, social discretion and judgement. What are the drivers that compel people to make certain choices in life that have a long lasting impact?

Perhaps it is their conservative upbringing or the fact that sex has often been a taboo topic not to be spoken of at home. We aim to impart positive messages and learning around sex, sexuality and sexual wellness. Empowering participants to listen, observe, learn and find sexual wellness by their own free will.

Throughout our events we will work together with participants to question and refine their mind-set, freeing them from any cultural measures that could have resulted in low sexual self-esteem and a fear of enjoying the pleasures of positive sexual wellness that generates happiness and overall self-positivity. Working closely with participants with care and privacy we aim to help close the gap on their lack of sexual education and positive role models regarding sexual wellness.

The online nature of our events allows participants from all over the world to connect and interact with others who may have a similar or comparable upbringing. To ensure that sessions are dynamic, interactive and helpful, speakers and facilitators are all skilful and empathetic experts in their field.

Come join us and embark on a new positive learning journey!

Date: Friday 14 May 2021

Time: 7 – 9 p.m. Singapore time

Where: Zoom

1. Matters of the Heart: Finding Magic in Mutual Masturbation by Kat Vergara

Relationships are not just about intimacy. In this 15 minute talk, witch, spiritual counselor, and author, Kat also known for her witch handle as Bramblevitch, will walk you through how mutual masturbation served as a gateway for healing, unlearning old beliefs about sex, and self-discovery not only for her but also for her partner.

2. A Man’s Journey to Living a Pleasurable Life One Stroke at a Time by Oliver James Damian

In this 15-minute talk Oliver will share with you what he has learned from all the inner work and social experiments he has done in the last 7 years after he deconstructed his former life based on the fear of missing out towards his new lives oriented on the complex pleasures of being in the joy of the moment.


3. Sexual Healing after Female Genital Cutting: One Khatna Survivor’s experience by Farzana Doctor

In this 15 minute presentation, author, psychotherapist and #endFGM activist, Farzana Doctor, will talk about her experiences of activism, healing and her sex and relationships column for survivors, Dear Maasi.

Curated by Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 12 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore. She is also a Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator from Star of Ishtar.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for PinkLifestyle.com; as well appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.


7:00 pm - 9:30 pm
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